Serving Cunt is an Act of Somatic Healing
Stay with me.
First things first, for those that come here to eat, go try the Ovulatory Phase Nectarine and Labneh Toast from a pop up I recently did with Asereia Cantina.
For those that are here to eat and leave no crumbs on an energetic level, keep reading.
Brat Summer
Summer ‘24 is being claimed by rat boys and finance men but my favorite essence has to be brat summer. Sun’s out and we’re elbow deep in dirty martinis with blue cheese stuffed olives (for probiotics and healthy fats of course), wearing whatever we want, and dancing on tables to Charlie XCX.
It might sound silly or far away from the healing journey, but this is a road to undoing years of shame. When it comes to eating for your body some people will have the hurdle of accessibility. Mostly what keeps people from making the choice to eat for nourishment is that they do not believe they are worthy of it. To create long term positive change in the way you feed yourself, addressing your self image is the thing.
Anywhere that we were served a shame sandwich in life requires our care. We have to let those old stories go to start seeing how lit we actually are in the present. Releasing the stories fueled by shame allows us to see we are spectacular beings with unlimited potential that deserve to be fed gorgeous foods.
For me and the women in my life, a shared story of shame comes from being labeled as too much. Too sensitive, too opinionated, too mouthy, with too many desires. A brat.
I Don’t Care if You’re Good, I Need you to be Real
When you’re a kid the opinion of the adults in your life is everything. It is encoded in you to care what your parents think because biologically their love = your survival.
Growing up in a western, capitalist society puts a lot of pressure on things being clearly defined as black or white, good or bad. The highest profitability does not save space for gray areas and nuance.
Kids are left with the decision to either lean into becoming the villain or spend the rest of their lives trying to prove they are good enough for the random values assigned by parents.
Most of us choose to be good because this seems like the safer choice. Stay with the pack. Keep the peace. In this decision, you will train your body and mind to behave in a way that is expected rather than what feels right for you. When being good is all you care about, you sacrifice authenticity.
As an adult I see many people hold on to the importance of being good. If you value being good, being liked, being digestible how can you ever be great? You won’t allow yourself to make a mess and color outside of the lines.
There is no growth without getting a little ugly with it.
That looks different for everyone, but I think a fun intro is to tap into this bratty, cunty summer. It’s short skirts with tall boots, it’s your Uber rating in the trash, but really it’s whatever tf chaos you want it to be as long as you genuinely have a good time doing it (and don’t physically harm others or the planet).
What are Somatics?
Somatic therapy is bizarre and amazing.
Where talk therapy addresses your logic, somatic therapy helps shine a spotlight on your emotions and the wisdom of the body. Through mindfulness techniques and physical movement practices, somatics discovers how to make the body feel safe again. In this safety you can fully feel your emotions, sit with them, and release.
Somatics are the brat of therapy. Messy and unpredictable. There is not a specific routine to be performed for somatics. Instead the right practitioner will help meet the needs of your body in that moment.
There are excellent certified somatic experiencing practitioners (like my friend Madison) that know much more than I do when it comes to this topic. What I do know is that the most delicious transformations in my life have been on the other side of somatic work.
Brat Summer X Somatic Healing Crossover
This summer, alongside the tomato salads and burrata, you have the opportunity to serve cunt and receive somatic healing.
For one to serve cunt you have to be so true to yourself and your own taste. That information requires you to really listen to what your body is saying. Building up this communication and trust with yourself is a healing experience. Listening to what genuinely lights up your body, unbothered by the world around you, is medicine.
For example, this weekend I rocked up and got some tooth gems. They are so fun and low key a gateway drug to the grills I’ve wanted since I was 5.
They’re probably not everyone’s cup of tea but I think they’re hot which gives me the opportunity to show myself that I can disagree with others and still be safe.
Getting the gems I felt pure glee bubbling up in my belly. As I went through the different colors and shapes I could feel my inner child doing a jig. When a big shiny red heart was glued to my tooth my inner teen smiled like the first time I got a tattoo.
After it was done there was no keeping my mouth shut. Main character energy off the charts.
At face value it’s just gems on my teeth. On a deeper level, it was me proving that I can listen to my desires and deliver. The brain peace I had afterwards was similar to what I feel post yoga. Two roads to falling in love with living in my body.
You do not have to be a perfect monk to heal. There’s actually a lot of beauty in admitting that you are human as hell and letting yourself experiment with the world around you, detaching from how you “should” behave.
On the Menu this Month
To help you meet the needs of your period in the laziest way possible (because we’re busy out her being brats duh) I’ve created a menstrual phase meal plan.
It includes four different recipes with big leftover portions to keep you fed with as little cooking as possible.
These are the comfort meals you dream of in menstrual phase like a big bowl of pasta and loaded nachos. Plus, they’ve been developed with intentional ingredients that benefit the menstrual phase.
Soundtrack for July
Strictly music for strutting around with your little attitude. Auditory food for awakening your inner brat.
I’d love to hear what brat summer means to you so leave a comment if you have something to say. Chat soon!
Warmly,
Katie